Crusts & Crumbs is a new reflection for Sunday evenings: thoughts on today's Scripture from parenting's perspective. If you're hungry to connect faith and family, let’s chew here together. "The anxieties of daily life." Is there anything more ordinary? Preaching on perplexing signs and terrible fears that will signal the end of times, Jesus speaks words of caution: "Beware that your hearts do not become drowsy from carousing and drunkenness and the anxieties of daily life" (Luke 21:25-28, 34-36). We laugh and swat away the first two, easy enough. But the last? Who among us is not dogged by anxieties? How could they be dangerous as drunkenness? Worry walks hand in hand with the work of raising children. From the beginning parents circle round small concerns and shrink from larger fears. Will the child be safe? Healthy? Strong? Worries change as children grow and parents age, but anxiety is still wound tight with love. How could we possibly parent without worry? But … [Read more...] about crusts & crumbs: pray, hope, don’t worry
Crusts & Crumbs is a new reflection for Sunday evenings: thoughts on today's Scripture from parenting's perspective. If you're hungry to connect faith and family, let’s chew here together. Crusts & Crumbs "For this I was born," Jesus says (John 18:37). We think his birth attracts attention, coming at the end of Christmas countdown and Advent anticipation. But how much do we meditate on who God was before and after birth? This week we whiplash from Christ the King to Christ the Child. Alpha and Omega, end and beginning, the turning point of the church year. But this is no slow shift from Ordinary Time to Advent. Suddenly God is bounded by bodies - Jesus' own and his mother's. A shrinking that expands, a growing that surrenders. Pregnancy's paradoxes made divine. All of us were once held within another. Womb surrounded for months of darkness. Stretched within skin, carried by muscle, buoyed with water. Strength and nourishment, the place of preparation. Pregnancy … [Read more...] about crusts & crumbs: bounded by birth
Crusts & Crumbs is a new reflection for Sunday evenings: thoughts on today's Scripture from parenting's perspective. If you're hungry to connect faith and family, let’s chew here together. Crusts & Crumbs A time unsurpassed in darkness. Why on earth would anyone choose to have a child? Parents ask this question (and friends inquire and strangers probe) over and over. Why now? Why another? Why at all, in these days of disaster and despair? Yet Love still takes the risk of birth. A couple decides to try for a baby. A student applies to college. A child starts piano lessons. Is there anything more ordinary or more hopeful? The stars falling, said the Lord (Mark 13:24-32). The stars forever, wrote the prophet (Daniel 12:1-3). Somewhere between these two - death and eternity, destruction and rebirth, end and beginning - is where we spend our days. Beyond the screaming, wailing headlines - mass shootings, abuse scandals, deadly storms, political turmoil - we make dinner. … [Read more...] about crusts & crumbs: how could you have kids now?
Last week was the anniversary of the baby we lost to miscarriage. I could not bring myself to enter into it. I am sick of being heart-sick. . . . Remember when you were a kid and you got sick? Strep throat or stomach flu or whatever winter cold cough crud kept you home from school? By day two or three, you'd hit that pillow-pounding point of frustration - I'm sick of being sick! - where you didn't want to lie in bed anymore, didn't want any more extra attention, didn't even want to watch TV. You wanted to be free, to be outside again, to be back to your old self. That's a good sign. Your mother would smile as she tucked you back in and kissed your warm forehead. It means you're getting better. . . . He and I never expected all this heartache. We didn't want the drama. We were just a couple of kids. Who wanted to have a couple of kids. But then there was infertility, and then there was miscarriage, and now there is the loss of our babies - and yes, believe me: I know we … [Read more...] about the other baby