Grief

pregnancy complicated joy

Complicated Joy

By Katie Cassady | November 28, 2022

For all of the beauty found in celebrating the liturgical year, I find that marking milestones by these holy seasons and rituals has a tendency to make whatever experience that much more intense and emotional for me. Pregnancy announcements during Advent—potent. Witnessing conversion and Baptism at Easter Vigil—stick a fork in me. Gifts of selflessness…

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a prayer for miscarriage

A Prayer for Miscarriage

By Laura Kelly Fanucci | November 8, 2022

This prayer for miscarriage is featured in the book Pocket Prayers for Times of Trouble (Twenty-Third Publications, 2014). God of comfort, you who are mother and father of us all, hear my anguish at the loss of my child. My heart and body are broken, wracked with pain and grief. Let me bring you my cries and my confusion, my anger…

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The Mystery of Love Persisting

By Rakhi McCormick | October 10, 2022

I can still feel the waves of nausea that began to hit my stomach when I heard the news. My whole world was turning upside down, and I had no way to stop it. The voices in my head were swirling around like a plastic bag being blown by a cyclone. I was about to…

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pregnancy after loss

the spiritual side of pregnancy after loss

By Laura Kelly Fanucci | March 28, 2017

Pregnancy after the loss of a baby – following miscarriage, stillbirth, or infant death – is a daunting prospect.  From a distance I used to think “trying again” or “having another baby” must be a happy, hopeful, healing part of parenthood. (File this away under “Things I Didn’t Really Understand Until They Happened to Me.”)…

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parents grief

you can imagine. let me help you.

By Laura Kelly Fanucci | April 27, 2016

As newly bereaved parents, we hear this all the time. I can’t imagine what you’re going through. I can’t imagine what you’re feeling. I can’t imagine what this is like. I can’t imagine. I understand this sentiment completely. People want to be respectful of the terrible loss we have experienced. They don’t want to assume that…

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I have a first grader

I have a first-grader

By Laura Kelly Fanucci | October 2, 2015

Every morning my son goes off to school. He slings a giant shark backpack over his tiny shoulder, and he waves to me as I drive away from the carpool lane. And every morning as he turns into the school’s open door, the same fear catches my heart. What if that is the last time…

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empty due date

the empty due date

By Laura Kelly Fanucci | April 13, 2015

I wrote this on the anniversary of the due date that wasn’t.  I wasn’t going to share it here. Then I was reminded that we all carry our handful of hard days each year: the death of a loved one, the anniversary of an accident, the memory of a loss, the date of a tragedy. If we…

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miscarriage story

the trash tells the story

By Laura Kelly Fanucci | March 14, 2015

A month ago I ran into a friend as we were both rushing into church from the whipping winter wind. She held the door for me, and I sprinted inside, breathing steam. As we shivered in the entryway, trying to warm up, she said, “Oh! I meant to tell you – I read your book. I…

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pregnancy infant loss remembrance day

for all our children. tonight and always

By Laura Kelly Fanucci | October 15, 2013

This post was supposed to be about children. All weekend I had these wonderful thoughts running through my head. About how much I adore the age of four: how he appears in our doorway in the dark dawn hour, hair tousled from sleep, beloved seahorse cradled in his arm, ready to climb in bed with…

READ MORE

Complicated Joy

By Katie Cassady | November 28, 2022 |
pregnancy complicated joy

For all of the beauty found in celebrating the liturgical year, I find that marking milestones by these holy seasons and rituals has a tendency to make whatever experience that much more intense and emotional for me. Pregnancy announcements during Advent—potent. Witnessing conversion and Baptism at Easter Vigil—stick a fork in me. Gifts of selflessness…

READ MORE

A Prayer for Miscarriage

By Laura Kelly Fanucci | November 8, 2022 |
a prayer for miscarriage

This prayer for miscarriage is featured in the book Pocket Prayers for Times of Trouble (Twenty-Third Publications, 2014). God of comfort, you who are mother and father of us all, hear my anguish at the loss of my child. My heart and body are broken, wracked with pain and grief. Let me bring you my cries and my confusion, my anger…

READ MORE

The Mystery of Love Persisting

By Rakhi McCormick | October 10, 2022 |

I can still feel the waves of nausea that began to hit my stomach when I heard the news. My whole world was turning upside down, and I had no way to stop it. The voices in my head were swirling around like a plastic bag being blown by a cyclone. I was about to…

READ MORE

the spiritual side of pregnancy after loss

By Laura Kelly Fanucci | March 28, 2017 |
pregnancy after loss

Pregnancy after the loss of a baby – following miscarriage, stillbirth, or infant death – is a daunting prospect.  From a distance I used to think “trying again” or “having another baby” must be a happy, hopeful, healing part of parenthood. (File this away under “Things I Didn’t Really Understand Until They Happened to Me.”)…

READ MORE

you can imagine. let me help you.

By Laura Kelly Fanucci | April 27, 2016 |
parents grief

As newly bereaved parents, we hear this all the time. I can’t imagine what you’re going through. I can’t imagine what you’re feeling. I can’t imagine what this is like. I can’t imagine. I understand this sentiment completely. People want to be respectful of the terrible loss we have experienced. They don’t want to assume that…

READ MORE

I have a first-grader

By Laura Kelly Fanucci | October 2, 2015 |
I have a first grader

Every morning my son goes off to school. He slings a giant shark backpack over his tiny shoulder, and he waves to me as I drive away from the carpool lane. And every morning as he turns into the school’s open door, the same fear catches my heart. What if that is the last time…

READ MORE

the empty due date

By Laura Kelly Fanucci | April 13, 2015 |
empty due date

I wrote this on the anniversary of the due date that wasn’t.  I wasn’t going to share it here. Then I was reminded that we all carry our handful of hard days each year: the death of a loved one, the anniversary of an accident, the memory of a loss, the date of a tragedy. If we…

READ MORE

the trash tells the story

By Laura Kelly Fanucci | March 14, 2015 |
miscarriage story

A month ago I ran into a friend as we were both rushing into church from the whipping winter wind. She held the door for me, and I sprinted inside, breathing steam. As we shivered in the entryway, trying to warm up, she said, “Oh! I meant to tell you – I read your book. I…

READ MORE

for all our children. tonight and always

By Laura Kelly Fanucci | October 15, 2013 |
pregnancy infant loss remembrance day

This post was supposed to be about children. All weekend I had these wonderful thoughts running through my head. About how much I adore the age of four: how he appears in our doorway in the dark dawn hour, hair tousled from sleep, beloved seahorse cradled in his arm, ready to climb in bed with…

READ MORE